How To Tell if Your Date Likes You

a young couple on a dateIf you’re on a first date with a new man then at some point during the date it may cross your mind as to whether he likes you or not, certainly if you are finding yourself liking him.

It is natural for a good Christian woman to wonder if her thoughts of wanting to have a boyfriend and to be intimate with a man are sinful. However, God has created us to naturally yearn for the company of the opposite sex to contribute to creating a stable bond between two people and form a stable family and assist with procreation.

So with that aside, if you like your new date then you may be wondering if he also likes you too. Here are a few signs that may indicate that he likes you.

How To Tell If Your Date Likes You

How Is The Conversation Going?

Does he seem genuinely interested in what you have to say? Does he listen intently and have some good, interesting concepts to reply to you with over your general conversations? If so, these are good signs that he is certainly enjoying the conversation. However, this doesn’t necessarily indicate that he likes you romantically just from this.

However, if he is looking for ways to continue the conversation with you, is hanging off your every word and is agreeing with you a lot, then these could be signs that he may like you in a ‘more than friends’ way.

If you are not sure what you can talk about on your date then read this Forbes article here on how to have more meaningful conversations.

Is He Trying To Impress You

Is he constantly trying to impress you or looking for ways that he can tell you about his interesting and varied achievements? This can be rather drab for most women, in particular on a first date. However, a lot of guys do this out of a need to impress the lady and try to win her affections. If he is doing this a lot, then it may mean he likes you. Here are a few other ways that men try to impress women.

Watch His Eyes

Eye contact can really tell you a lot about a person. When in conversation, is he looking back into your eyes a lot and not wanting to break eye contact? People, both men and women do this when they are looking at something they find attractive, pleasing to the eye or even captivating.

When you are not in conversation, do you notice a few times that he seems to he trying to catch glimpses of you when he thinks you are not looking? If so, then he is either deciding in his mind how he feels about you or he has already made his mind up and is finding it difficult not to look at you due to the attraction he is feeling.

Proximity

A good Christian man will most likely be respectful of a woman’s space. However, if he likes you, he may find it difficult not to stand so close to you. If he seems that he is naturally gravitation towards you, then the reason could be that he likes you.

Body Language

When on your date, pay particular attention to his body language. How is he standing? How is he holding himself? A man that likes you will more likely be facing you directly with an open posture.

If he looks at you intently and seems to study your face while you are talking, then he is probably feeling attraction for you.

Also, pay attention to his gestures. Does he appear to touch your hand or arm occasionally while you are talking? If so, this is a clear sign that he likes you.

There are twenty body language signs that can show a man likes you according to Cosmo in this article.

Summary

There can be many signs to tell if a guy likes you and each man may be slightly different. However, these are the common signs that a guy may be giving you intentionally or unintentionally to let you know that he likes you more than a friend and may be willing to pursue things further in a romantic capacity with you.

If you find that you do also like him as well, then don’t rush into anything too soon. Take time to get to know him, introduce him to your close friends and family members to see what they think of him and pray to God to see if he is the one for you to be close to.

Dating can certainly be a complex issue especially in this modern day and age. we need to always bear in mind our faith and what God wants for us. However, we also need to be in touch with more modern concepts of dating in order to get a balance. To get a good perspective on modern trends of dating, there are some good articles around, such as the ones found at the American Dating Society here. Not all of them may apply to Christians so we must be mindful of information out there that does not fit with our values. However, they can help to give you an insight into the modern trends.

How To Behave On A First Date

a woman on a first dateYour first date can be a defining moment in your love life and one of the most important things to move forward with when it comes to your approach.

Those who are not able to behave well on their first date are rarely going to get a second chance with the other person. You have to do well and make sure you are making the best first impression possible.

This article will give you some helpful tips on what you can do to ensure you give off the best first impression on your date. These tips will make it more likely that there will also be a second date on the cards.

Good First Date Rules To Abide By

1) Be On Time

There is nothing worse than a person showing up late for a date. It shows disrespect to the other person and can make you come across like you either don’t care about the other person, or you’re a bit scatty. This is definitely not the time to be “fashionably late” because you are going to make a horrible first impression by doing this, which is one of the biggest mistakes you can make.

Always be smart about what you are doing, and that is going to include being on time as much as possible. If you have arranged to meet somewhere, then do your best to get there a little early. This can also help you with any first date nerves, as if you arrive at the place first then you can assess the setting and get comfortable with your surroundings first.

2) Be A Good Listener

Many people make the mistake of rushing in to tell the other person everything there is to know about themselves in order to try to impress them. Some people also do this out of nervousness. However, the main idea of a first date is to get to know the other person.

I love the quote, ‘we have two ears and one mouth, so we should listen twice as much as we speak’. This is so true, especially when it comes to the first date. Listening to what the other person has to say and taking a genuine interest in what is important to them will show that you are interested in getting to know them as a person and not self-centered.

This is a real issue for people because they don’t listen and that is when they get in trouble on a first date. You want to show you are an active listener who is ready to pay attention. This is how you are going to feel great about the approach you are taking.

Here are some tips to help you improve those all important listening skills ready for your first date encounter.

3) Always Be Polite

This should go without saying, but we must mention it in case it doesn’t get through to some readers. It doesn’t matter how you are feeling at that time; you have to stay polite to the other person with whom you are on a date with because it says a lot about your character in various situations. Yes, it can be stressful dating someone and going out on the first date when you like them, but that is the beauty of being polite.

You are going to win them over and come across as a great person when you do this, and that is the goal at the end of the day. You want to set the tone by doing this.

4) Remember God

It can be easy to get carried away with the other person if you really like them. However, you must always remember that God is watching you and you need to be mindful that you are respectful to yourself, the other person and God.

If you are dating another Christian, then you can ask them about their views on the faith to get an idea of how committed they are.

5) Pay Attention To Hygiene

This is also a critical factor in getting the first date right. Be sure to give close attention to your hygeine before leaving the house. Pay particular attention to the cleanliness of your skin, clothes and the freshness of your breath.

Summary

If you are not used to dating, then you are going to realize soon that it is not easy to manage the first date. However, as long as you are following the above guidelines, you and your dating partner should have a good experience. You also want it to be a fun experience that you will both remember. If you can put pleasant memories in their head of spending time with you, then they will most likely want to see you again for a second date. Pay attention to this as you begin planning your next approach.

Your first date should be a memorable one, and it starts right here.

Is Changing Your Religion For Love A Good Thing?

a couple on the beachAccording to the singer Sammy Fain, love is a many splendored thing. It can make you feel confident and desired even at the worst of times.

Unfortunately, loving another person can also be a complicated situation, bringing with it different difficulties when facing a long-term relationship.

Things can more often than not be naturally smooth when dating someone else who is also a Christian. However, dating or being in love with a person of a different religion can be fraught with obstacles. This can sometimes bring up the question; Should I change my religion for love?

At times, people will do unusual things including changing their religion to court or marry another individual. However, is changing religion for love a positive approach to romance?

Like a good Christian, we should tell you, absolutely no, you should never change your religion for anyone. However, here we want to try as best as we can to give an unbiased view on this question and leave it up to you to make your mind up whether changing your religion for another person is the right thing to do or not.

The Modern Age

Due to the issue of globalization, it is common for people to enter relationships where they do not share the same culture or religion. While it is not mandatory for the couple to worship the same God in many faiths, it can bring various conflicts into a relationship that can lead to disharmony in a marriage. However, when entering a long-term relationship, there are situations where the individuals will need to convert to a single religion if they wish to marry.

To convert or not to convert?

The need to convert will inevitably place lots of strain on a relationship and requires a great deal of understanding and commitment to your partner. There are situations where the couple is unable to reach an accord resulting in a break-up or end of the relationship. As can be seen, the change of religion for love will often challenge the strength of relationships.

As is mentioned above, it is not always mandatory for the couple to follow a single religion when married. If this is the case and you are both happy with it then why change? It should be far more healthy compromise to respect each other’s different viewpoints and continue with your separate religious practices harmoniously.

The views of others in your religion

Unfortunately, the notion of living in an interfaith relationship or marriage can be met with disapproval by various cultures. It is seen that some families will disown their child if an interfaith marriage is entered or if they choose to convert to an alternate religion. This is a factor that must be considered when deciding whether or not to change one’s religion for a romantic relationship.

Although this is rather an old mentality, it is still very prevalent across many cultures.

a bible with a ring

How strong is your relationship?

Love is a strong emotion and can cause people to do ‘crazy’ things, but forsaking one’s religion to form an allegiance with a loved partner is more easily said than done. One of the fears of an individual who converts to another religion is the potential ending of the relationship. As is mentioned, the strength of the relationship is challenged upon conversion and there is the chance that the converted individual may find themselves ‘left in the cold’ if facing the end of the relationship.

You may wonder why this is a problem? Consider if the individual had been disowned for converting and is then left by the person they chose to convert for. This person may not be welcomed back to their original community and could feel neglected or rejected by the new religion. So, is it a good idea to change your religion for love?

The answer is a personal one and depends purely on whether you feel your relationship is strong enough to handle the complications.

Consult with your close friends and family members of the same religion to find out their opinions on the subject. Pray to God for the answer you need and listen every day for the answer that you seek.

However, above all, don’t rush into a decision of this nature hastily. This question needs a great deal of soul-searching and deep thought in order to come to the right decision for you.